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Who Was the Jewish Sex Expert Dr. Ruth Westheimer?

Dr. Ruth Westheimer sadly passed away on the 12th July 2024. Tributes have been shared from around the world as the 96-year-old’s death was confirmed – But just who was this iconic woman? 

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, commonly known as Dr. Ruth, is a renowned Jewish sex therapist, media personality, and author who gained widespread fame in the 1980s for her frank and approachable discussions about sex and relationships. Here’s a brief overview of her life and career:

The Birth and Early Life of Dr. Westheimer

Born in Frankfurt in 1928, Karola Ruth Siegel, known throughout her career as Dr. Ruth Westheimer, faced tragedy at an early age.

A holocaust survivor, she escaped to Switzerland at the age of 10, losing her parents in the process. After the war, she emigrated to Palestine where she served as a sniper in the Haganah, the Jewish paramilitary organisation. She later moved to France and the United States, where she pursued higher education.

Dr. Ruth earned a master’s degree in Sociology from The New School and later a Doctorate in Education from Teachers College, Columbia University. She began her career as a sex therapist by working with Planned Parenthood in New York. 

Her work in this field led her to teach human sexuality at various institutions before eventually becoming a radio and television personality – and the much-beloved sex expert and Doctor we know.

Dr. Ruth’s Media Career

Dr. Ruth became a household name sometime in the 80s, when her radio show, Sexually Speaking, first aired. She rose in popularity largely due to her warm personality and grandmotherly demeanour. Her candid discussions about sex made her a popular figure, breaking taboos and making sex education more accessible to the public. 

Dr. Ruth went on to author numerous books on sex and relationships, contributing significantly to public discourse on these topics.

Here are some of her publications:

  • “Sex for Dummies” (1995) 
  • “Dr. Ruth’s Guide to Good Sex” (1983) 
  • “The Art of Arousal: A Celebration of Erotic Art Throughout History” (1993) 
  • “Dr. Ruth’s Sex After 50: Revving Up the Romance, Passion & Excitement!” (1997) 
  • “Dr. Ruth’s Encyclopedia of Sex” (1994)
  • “The Doctor Is In: Dr. Ruth on Love, Life, and Joie de Vivre” (2015)
  • “Myths of Love: Echoes of Ancient Mythology in the Modern Romantic Imagination” (2014)
  • “Heavenly Sex: Sexuality in the Jewish Tradition” (1995)
  • “Sexually Speaking: What Every Woman Needs to Know about Sexual Health” (1996)
  • “Dr. Ruth’s Guide for the Alzheimer’s Caregiver” (2012)

Legacy and Impact on Sex and Sexuality

There is no denying that Dr. Ruth had a profound impact on how sex and relationships are discussed in the media. 

Erobella reports that many of its clients and escorts acknowledge Dr. Ruth for her efforts in demystifying sex and making discussions about it more open and less stigmatised. The escort directory site says that clients from all over the world feel more comfortable discussing their kinks and fantasies now than they would have before the 80s and the rise of Dr. Ruth – Even in her later years, Dr. Ruth remained active in the media, continuing to write, speak, and educate people about sex and relationships.

The Woman Behind the Sex

About Dr. RuthDetails
Full NameKarola Ruth Siegel (known as Dr. Ruth Westheimer)
Birth and DeathJune 4, 1928 – July 12, 2024
Place of BirthFrankfurt, Germany
Early LifeEscaped the Holocaust by being sent to Switzerland; parents died in the Holocaust
EducationMaster’s in Sociology (The New School); Doctorate in Education (Teachers College, Columbia University)
Early CareerWorked with Planned Parenthood; taught human sexuality
Radio and TV CareerGained fame in the 1980s with radio show “Sexually Speaking”; hosted TV programs
Books and PublicationsAuthored numerous books on sex and relationships
Key ContributionsPioneered open discussions about sex and relationships in media
Personal LifeMarried three times; two children
LegacyConsidered a cultural icon; broke taboos around sex education

It has been noted often that Dr. Ruth was not only an expert in sex education, but also an incredibly strong, resilient, and warm individual that people were naturally drawn to.

It is no surprise that she became an influential figure in both Jewish and broader cultural contexts. Her life was full of trials, but it is clear that she rose above every one and carved out an impactful and respectable career for herself that has changed the lives of millions.

Upon news of her passing, her work has surged in popularity and videos of Dr. Ruth’s interviews and snippets from her shows have gone viral. Thanks to social media, a new generation is sure to enjoy learning all about the impact this incredible woman had on the acceptance of sex and sexuality, in all of its shapes and pleasures. 

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At 104, Besse Gurevich last original resident of Shaftesbury Park Retirement Residence

By MYRON LOVE At 104, Besse Gurevich is the last of the original residents of Shaftesbury Park Retirement Residence. She may also be the oldest member of our Jewish community.
Although her vision and her hearing have diminished considerably, her mind and memory are still intact.  A few weeks back, this writer sat down with her in her suite as she recalled a life filled with highs and lows and her many  contributions to her community, both in Winnipeg and Fort William before that.
The daughter of Jack and Rebecca Avit, her life’s journey began in 1921 in a home on Carlton Street near Ellice Avenue, near her father’s furniture store.  He later operated a cap factory.
When she was ten, the family – she had two brothers and a sister – moved to Manitoba Avenue in the old North End. “My father had put a deposit down on a house on Scotia,” she recalls.  “But my parents didn’t feel that the neighbourhood was Jewish enough.”
Her schooling included Peretz School and, like so many of her generation, St. John’s Tech (as it was known back then.)  “I was actually supposed to be going to Isaac Newton for high school,” she says.  We were living on the wrong side of the tracks for St. John’s.  After one day at Isaac Newton, I found a way to transfer to St. John’s.”
In 1940, 19-year-old Bessie Avit married Jack Gurevich, a young man from Fort William.  The wedding was marred though, by the sudden, untimely passing of her father.
Following the wedding, Besse moved with her new husband to Fort William where Jack Gurevich worked in retail clothing sales.  “We lived in Fort William for 20 years,” she says.  “Our three children (Judy, Richard and Howard) were born there.”
She recalls that there were about 200 Jewish families – including her sister and one of her brothers for some years – in town, during the time she lived there. “We were very well known in the community,” she recalls. “I was involved in everything.”
Her community activism continued after the family’s return to her home town. While Jack went to work as a salesman for Western Glove Works, Besse became an indefatigable community volunteer. At one time or another, she served as vice-president of ORT, Hadassah and National Council of Jewish Women in Winnipeg. She was also a long time B’nai Brith member.
In the business world, the highlight of her career was the building of Linden Woods.  “I became involved in real estate development for a time,” she recalls. “I was hired by Genstar to develop Linden Woods.  The company estimated that it would take about 20 years to complete.  I got it done in two.”
She also taught hair dressing for a while. “I worked with many young Jewish brides,” she says.
Recent years have not been kind to Besse Gurevich. Her beloved husband, Jack, died in 2016 – after almost 65 years of marriage.  Older son, Richard, passed away in Vancouver in 2018 and, most recently –six months ago – younger son, Howard, followed.  She notes that there were 200 mourners at Howard’s funeral.
(Howard Gurevich was in marketing for many years before turning his talents to the art world. In recent years, he was best known for Gurevich Fine Art in the Exchange District and his support of local artists.)
Besse Gurevich celebrated her 100th birthday – which took place at the height of the Covid shutdown – quietly. 
While she used to enjoy reading. she is unable to do so any more. She can still listen to television.
And while she has few family members to visit her any more, she does have a group of friends interesting enough from the local theatre scene.  For many years, she was a close friend of the late Doreen Brownstone, one of the leading figures in theatre in Winnipeg for more than half a century.  Besse became part of the group that would visit Doreen every week and, since Doreen passed on three years ago, the members of the group have continued to visit Besse on a weekly basis.  

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Winnipeg author’s first novel gripping tale of romance, action and intrigue, set in 15th century Spain and Morocco

“The Chronos of Andalucia” author Merom Toledano

By MYRON LOVE “The Chronos of Andalucia”, a novel just released by first-time author Merom Toledano, is a historical romance set in late 15th century Spain and Morocco, filled with passion, action, intrigue, unexpected twists and turns – and, of course, with the requirement of any medieval story – a quest.
The easy-to-read, 190 page book follows the adventures of Catalina, a young woman living by her wits on the streets of Granada in the year 1487, (just after the Christian armies of Ferdinand and Isabella had recaptured all of Spain from the Moors) – while trying to evade the agents of the Inquisition, who had murdered her Jewish mother and Christian father 10 years earlier.  She was left with an insatiable desire to learn about astronomy, along with a mysterious map and an astrolabe (an instrument formerly used to make astronomical measurements) – the importance of which will only be unveiled if she can get to the city of Tangier in Morocco.
Early on, there is a reference to Abraham Zacuto, a prominent Spanish rabbi famed for his knowledge of astronomy and astrology.
The action begins when she has a casual interaction with a former Spanish soldier, Diego.  When the forces of the Inquisition approach, she flees with the soldier – who is also her love interest – and who helps her to escape.  They turn for help to a childhood friend of Catalina’s – Roberta, a nun, who helps them on their perilous  journey to Tangier – a journey that includes being captured by pirates, surviving a shipwreck, being separated for a long period of time and, of course, finding each other again and realizing the success of their joint quest.
In his writing, the author paints vivid word pictures of the different characters and beautifully invokes the colour, sights, sounds and scents of the time and the places. 
What I found truly remarkable about the writing of “The Chronos of Andalucia” is that English is not Merom  Toledano’s first language.  The Israeli-born author – he grew up near Haifa – came to Winnipeg with his young family just eight years ago.
“I have had this book in mind for several years now,” says the satellite engineer whose working career takes him to many different parts of the world. 
He notes that he has always felt a connection to Spain, Spanish music and literature – a reflection of his family’s modern origins in that country.  His great-grandparents, he relates, lived in Toledo – hence the family name, Toledano.  His parents lived in Meknes in Morocco while his father attended university in Tangier before making aliyah.
Toledano just published “The Chronos of Andalucia” in April on Amazon. He reports that the book – which is available here at McNally Robinson – has been selling well –close to 100 copies – with orders coming from a bookstore chain in England, a bookstore in Denmark, and one in Italy.
“I have had between 30 and 40 positive reviews so far,” he reports.
Toledano adds that he envisages “The Chronos of Andalucia” to be the first in a series – a la the writer Danielle Steele.  He is already working on a sequel – which is hinted at the end of “The Chronos” and, he reports, he is establishing his own independent publishing operation.        

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Did the Jewish Federation’s stepping in to force the firing of BB Camp co-executive director Jacob Brodovsky lead to the further alienating of many young Jews from the community?

BB Camp logo/former BB Camp co-executive director Jacob Brodovsky

(June 8, 2024) Introduction: We received the following email from a young Jewish Winnipegger re the BB Camp controversy, which we’ve reported on extensively on this website. We thought it important to post the email as a separate piece rather than as an add-on to an article in which we printed other emails from readers expressing their disappointment at what happened to Jacob Brodovsky, the former co-executive director of BB Camp:

Dear Mr. Bellan,

Thank you for once again cutting through the noise with your April 23rd column, “What the sordid BB Camp affair says about our community.” Your clarity and courage in calling out our rush to judgment and our narrowing definition of “Jewish identity” are deeply appreciated, especially by those of us who feel increasingly alienated in Winnipeg.

I also want to share a troubling observation about one of the loudest voices attacking Jacob Brodovsky: theJ.ca. Their articles—bylines like “Ron East” or “TheJ.ca Staff”—are, in fact, almost entirely generated by artificial intelligence. They contain no verifiable sourcing, frequently hallucinate details, and appear to be little more than a far-right newsletter running smear campaigns under the guise of “journalism.” The entire BB Camp series reads like an AI trained on extremist talking points, regurgitated daily to bully our community into silence.

As a young Jew in Winnipeg, I—and many of my peers—are horrified by the transformation we’re witnessing. What was once a warm, progressive community is now dominated by:

Bigots and Bullies: Parents threatening to pull their kids unless the camp bows to extremist demands.

Florida-style Republican Judaism: A narrow, intolerant ideology portrayed as the only “true” Jewishness.

Collapsing Leadership: Our Jewish Federation leaders, including Jeff Lieberman, have shown they lack the vision or backbone to navigate this crisis.

We stand at a dangerous inflection point. Our community is on the verge of a total and irreversible fascist takeover—an outcome no amount of regret or retrospective apologies can undo.

Please consider reading firsthand accounts from community members who have bravely spoken out:

I know this letter is anonymous and won’t be published, but I hope you see it as proof that many of us are desperate for ethical, forward-looking leadership. Thank you again for using your platform to remind us what Jewish community should mean: diversity of thought, compassion for all people, and the moral courage to call out extremism—no matter where it comes from.

This was NEVER a community of far-right Israelis. This is a shame beyond words.

With gratitude and urgency,

A Concerned Young Jew in Winnipeg

Post script: We had heard from many different sources (who all asked to remain anonymous) that the Jewish Federation’s decision to force the BB Camp board to fire Jacob Brodovsky came as a result of pressure from one or more big donors to the Combined Jewish Appeal. We sent an email to Jeff Lieberman, asking Jeff whether the Jewish Federation’s decision to force the resignation of Jacob Brodovsky as co-executive director of BB Camp came as a result of a donor (or donors) to the Combined Jewish Appeal threatening to withdraw their donation(s) this year unless Jacob were fired. I don’t think anyone would be surprised to learn that Jeff did not bother responding to my request for information.

The Jewish Federation used to advertise elections to its board in The Jewish Post & News for many years, but no longer does so (in the Jewish Post). Instead, it submits a slate of new appointees to its board to members of the current board to be rubber stamped. Is it any surprise that the donors who contribute the most money call the shots for the Federation (which is as its always been. The only difference is the Jewish Federation and the Winnipeg Jewish Community Council before it used to operate with a patina of democracy. Sadly, that is no longer the case.)

We would urge anyone on the Federation board who could give information about what led the board to force the resignation of Jacob Brodovsky to contact us. We would give full anonymity, as we have to the writer of the above letter.

-Bernie Bellan

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