Faye’s memory will be forever cherished by her children, Zane and Shawna, Alan and Shari, Brenda and Joel, and Michael and Michelle; her grandchildren, Dana (Jack), Alix, Brett, Melanee, Jessica, Josh, Zach, Adam, Justin and Brendan; her great-grandchild Frank; her sister and brother-in-law Helen and Harvey Chargo, brother and sister-in-law Earl and Gail Bender, her many nieces, nephews, cousins, extended family and friends.
Faye was predeceased by the love of her life and husband of 50 years, Ernie, her parents Lillian and Joseph Bender, and, most recently, her cousin Elaine Paul.
Faye was born in Winnipeg on July 8, 1933, the eldest of three children. The family moved to Elma, Manitoba, where they lived for the next five and half years before returning to Winnipeg.
Faye and Ernie met by chance at a mutual friend’s wedding. Their relationship evolved, and they married on October 31, 1954. Faye and Ernie were the perfect partners and their love and devotion to each other and to their family was inspirational. While Ernie established himself in business, Faye managed their home and was always there to support her children, in all of their endeavours.
They enjoyed happy years together travelling and entertaining, the ultimate hosts welcoming their friends, family and their children’s friends. Their home was the venue for holiday celebrations, get-togethers, card games and pool parties. Their annual winter holidays in Pompano Beach, Florida were dedicated to family time.
Faye was the consummate matriarch. She savoured her role as a homemaker, wife, mother, devoted daughter, loyal sister, aunt, true friend and caring and loving grandmother and great-grandmother.
Faye also found time to volunteer and be an active, lifetime member and leader in community organizations including Hadassah, Pioneer Women/Na’amat, ORT, and B’nai Brith Women.
Following Ernie’s untimely passing, Faye tried to redefine herself as a widow going forward. She missed Ernie terribly, but she was able to find periods of joy and rediscover herself over these past 14 years.
As her health declined, she had the support from her family and companions. We acknowledge Marley Missyabit and Catherine Santos for their care and love given to Faye, in providing her comfort with dignity. We also extend our appreciation to the Simkin Centre staff at 1 North Wing for their attention and compassion directed to Faye during the last weeks of her life.
A graveside funeral service took place on Wednesday, December 26, 2018 at the Shaarey Zedek Cemetery officiated by Rabbi Kleil Rose. Pallbearers were her grandchildren.
Tributes in Faye’s memory may be made by a donation to the Faye and Ernie Tessler Fund, at the Jewish Foundation of Manitoba (204.477.7525), or a charity of your choice.
“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day…. unseen, unheard, but always near, still loved, still missed and very dear.”